Friday, January 4, 2013

THEY LOBBY FROM THEIR GRAVES

THEY LOBBY FROM THEIR GRAVES

by Andrew Malekoff © 2013

It was not necessary for the slaughter of innocents at Sandy Hook Elementary School to validate what we are reminded of daily - that there is evil in the world. But what it did do is to affirm that if the massacre of six- and seven-year-old children is not off limits, then nothing is.

Immediately after the murderous rampage in Newtown, CT, mental health experts offered tips to speechless parents about how to soothe their children. The advice sounded like this: Be available emotionally, be compassionate, limit media exposure, reassure safety, offer distractions to prevent obsessive worry, monitor for angry outbursts and depression and, if symptoms persist, seek professional help.

Can you imagine how the advice might have sounded if parents spoke from their guts instead of their heads and hearts? The advice might have sounded like this: It’s a cruel world, evil is everywhere, toughen up, watch your back, be vigilant, don’t trust anyone and (for older children) just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean that they’re not out to get you.

In the last 30 years, America has mourned at least 61 mass murders. After some time passes, the latest homegrown massacre will become another tombstone in our collective psyche, alongside Columbine, the World Trade Center, the Long Island Railroad, Virginia Tech, Oak Creek, Aurora and more.

We seem always to move forward believing that we have seen the last and worst of it; until the next time. Denial is a healthy defense when the alternative is all-consuming, paralyzing and debilitating fear. We do all we can to protect our children emotionally, as well as physically. And, so we support their denial, using psychological bromides to seal their emotional scars.

The two major talking points since Newtown are preventing gun violence and promoting mental health. On the issue of gun violence, I wholeheartedly support the right to bear arms and taking steps to get certain guns out of uncertain hands. On the issue of mental health care, the chronic under-funding of children's outpatient community-based mental health services in Nassau County and New York State, is a disgrace.

New York State has ensured easy access to community-based mental health care for Medicaid recipients and neglected the needs of underinsured middle class and working poor families. Their answer is always that the marketplace will take care of it. It won’t. They know full well that private practitioners often do not accept private insurance and will not provide the labor-intensive services that licensed community-based mental health agencies do.

The gun lobby is formidable and well-heeled. Children, on the other hand, don’t have a voice until they are in the ground. Children are killed, grieving parents become tireless advocates and laws are passed. Timothy’s Law (mental health parity), Megan’s Law (making information available to the public regarding registered sex offenders) and Katie’s Law (making aggravated vehicular homicide a crime) come to mind.

Think about it. After the Newtown shootings there was not one parent in the United States who was able to escape the tyranny of imagining their child being murdered in their neighborhood school. How many more children will be taken from us before lawmakers devote the same energy and resources it takes to launch their re-election campaigns, to safeguarding our children?

Wake up lawmakers, elected and appointed officials, and government bureaucrats. Our children are suffering and dying, families are struggling and desperate. Support the constitutional right to bear arms, take steps to prevent gun violence and provide adequate funding for community-based mental health centers to support the emotional well-being of all of our children.









Sunday, September 30, 2012

AN OPEN LETTER TO A HOUSE DIVIDED

An Open Letter to a House Divided


Andrew Malekoff © October 2012
To the Nassau County Legislature and County Executive: I attended every Nassau County legislative meeting since May 2012 when funding cuts to human services were first addressed. I testified at four of the meetings. I presented illustrations of troubled children and working families and asked what the County’s backup plan was to help them after $7.3 million of tax-free, dedicated red-light camera revenues were shifted to the general fund. You offered no answers.

I provided facts and figures about the astronomical cost for incarceration in the Nassau County Correctional Facility and compared it to the relatively modest cost of preventive community-based services. I asked you where the money would come from if more kids are incarcerated or institutionalized as a result of depleted services. You offered no answers.

More than testifying, though, I listened and watched you interacting with one another and the public. To your credit, although you routinely pointed fingers at one another across the aisle, not one of you questioned the value of the services that have been held hostage for almost four months since the red-light camera funds were rescinded. If your sense of duty forbids these devastating cuts to human services, to paraphrase Abraham Lincoln, then I ask you to stand by your duty, fearlessly and effectively.

In his Cooper Union address, Lincoln famously declared that, "A house divided against itself cannot stand." We know that he was referring to a troubled nation. And, although what is at stake today is vastly different than what was at stake in 1860, what is unmistakable to me, after attending the legislative meetings, is that Nassau County is a house divided against itself. And what was true 150 years ago is still true today: a house divided against itself cannot stand.

I was invited, as a guest, to a meeting of the Federalist Society in September. Although I am not a member, I was very interested in what the guest speaker, NIFA Director George Marlin, had to say. I was hopeful that his remarks might shed additional light on Nassau County’s draconian cuts to vital human services. I did not expect Mr. Marlin to be sympathetic to youth services, for example, but I thought he might help me to better understand the fiscal context and what it would take for positive change to occur.

I was left with a distinct impression that Mr. Marlin, who described himself as a “street-corner conservative,” was not pleased with the fiscal trajectory of Nassau County. Yet, referring to New York State’s challenges, he lauded Governor Andrew Cuomo’s leadership and ability to find common ground, to work capably with members of both sides of the aisle and to effectively negotiate differences in balancing the state budget.

What a novel idea, I thought: cooperation, negotiation and integrated solutions. I implore you, our Nassau County elected representatives and County Executive, to provide leadership by finding ways to work together for the benefit of all of the people of Nassau County; and, in the process, to find a way to restore the tax-free essential human services funding; and, to do it soon.







Tuesday, September 11, 2012

ASSAULT ON HUMAN SERVICES


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ASSAULT ON HUMAN SERVICES
by Andrew Malekoff© September 20, 2012

September 5, 2012 marked two months since 7.3 million dollars, earmarked to support human services, were shifted to the general fund. We were told that this was due to the Nassau County legislature’s failure to pass $41 million in bonding for property tax refunds. But, it is not that simple.

How did all of this get started? In 2009, then-County Executive Tom Suozzi "enlisted" the county's most vulnerable citizens as unpaid lobbyists to advocate for red-light cameras, cigarette taxes and traffic-violation reform. Mr. Suozzi threatened scores of agencies serving tens of thousands of youths and families that they would be closed down or crippled unless the revenue enhancers were passed through Albany.

Red-light camera legislation passed and local agencies were assured, by unanimous vote of the full Nassau County legislature, that related revenues would become a sustainable source funding for these services. Three years later, that agreement is null and void. Our young people are now the collateral damage in a political war over bonding and redistricting.

More than two months have passed since the July 5, 2012 cuts to human services, which included $1.75 million of chemical dependency treatment funding. Despite extensive testimony, protests and media coverage, not a thing has changed. Advocates, young and old, have held press conferences, prayer vigils and a symbolic funeral for youth services. On August 6, several young people and adults attended a legislative meeting symbolically bound, gagged and blindfolded to point out that youth services were being held hostage.

What is the outcome of all of this activity and attention? Democrat and Republican legislators continue to point fingers and holler at one another in front of hundreds of disbelieving youths and family members who have become regular attendees at legislative meetings as well as activists in addressing this issue.

Youth services organizations that depend almost exclusively on County funds will close in a short time. Agencies with more diversified funding may not go out of business, but will have to shutter critical services such as after-school and summer programs as well as suicide, pregnancy, gang and drug-prevention programs that keep kids safe, provide enriching activities and offer a sense of belonging and relationships with caring adults during the non-school hours.

The developmental tasks necessary for adolescents in our culture to become healthy, functioning adults require great effort and time and more than parent and school support alone. These tasks include forging relationships with peers and adults that lead to the achievement of emotional independence from parents, developing a healthy sexual identity, building a capacity for greater intimacy with peers, learning skills and selecting an economic career; also developing a moral value and an ethical system to guide one’s behavior as well as desiring and employing socially responsible behavior.

Adolescence today is an age of particular vulnerability, a time in which youngsters are experiencing the sexual awakenings of puberty earlier than ever while facing increasing social and educational demands, and experimenting with more freedom, autonomy and choice than ever before. The politically-motivated de-funding of youth services is therefore an attack on the family.

Nassau County’s broken promises and its propensity to use vulnerable young people as pawns in promoting partisan political interests represents a moral failing and a lack of leadership. Our elected representatives on both sides of the aisle should be ashamed of themselves for putting our most vulnerable young people in the political crosshairs. Who among them will stand and deliver to put an end to this madness?

**Andrew Malekoff is Executive Director / CEO, North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center

Roslyn Heights, New York 11577 and author of Group Work with Adolescents: Principles and Practice (Guilford Press), now in its second edtion. E-mail: amalekoff@northshorechildguidance.org





Sunday, September 2, 2012

PARENTS, STUDENT ATHLETES AND THE PENN STATE SCANDAL

Parenthood Plus: August 30, 2012


Written by Andrew Malekoff, Executive Director North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center Friday, 31 August 2012 00:00

Parents, Student Athletes And The Penn State Scandal

Bob, my younger brother, was a die-hard Penn State football fan going back to the early 1960s. In later years he became a college coach and athletic director. Presently, he is Chair of the Sports Studies Department at Guilford College. He has written and researched extensively on maximizing the educational value of sports participation for youths, middle and high school, and college athletes. I thought there was no one better to ask about the Penn State mess and what lessons parents could take from it? Here is what he told me:

“For the past few months, we have been inundated with news about what is now commonly known as the ‘Penn State Scandal.’ Although the focus has been on the horrific acts of Jerry Sandusky and decrying the actions – or lack thereof – of Penn State administrators and others, it may be helpful to consider what the parents of young athletes can learn from this tragic affair.

“Many parents have paused and asked themselves, ‘What do I really know about the people coaching my children?’ First, the overwhelming majority of youth and high school coaches are solid citizens who have the best interests of your child in mind. But it would be naïve to think that there are not exceptions. Many states have laws requiring youth sport organizations and public schools to run background checks on coaches. Whether or not this is the case for your community, you can speak to the appropriate authorities about conducting these checks and implementing training programs that address how coaches can help young athletes to have a positive and safe experience.

“Parents need to understand that it is the coach’s job to manage the team and, for the most part, you should not interfere. However, you should be aware of the kind of experience that your child is having and you should feel free to ask questions. We sometimes tend to assign positive personal characteristics to coaches, whether deserved or not. This is particularly so in the case of winning programs; even at youth, and middle and high school levels. But winning championships doesn’t necessarily make someone a good person or role model. And, there is no question that it is difficult to challenge the coach who is competitively successful and has strong support from team parents and in the community. With unconditional support, less sensitive coaches can feel empowered to do as they please, especially if they are oblivious to how youngsters might be adversely impacted by their actions.

“Finally, you should strive to help your children keep sports in perspective. This starts with you, as a parent, doing the same.

“An appropriate level of perspective doesn’t mean that your child should not be competitive or do his or her best to excel on the field or court, or should not show respect for coaches and teammates. It does mean that when faced with a coach who behaves inappropriately or a teammate who bullies other children, your child should be encouraged to share what is going on, as opposed to subscribing to the idea that a good team member never questions a coach’s authority, even if it is used to exploit or harm others.

“The great majority of coaches care deeply about the long-term development of the children under their supervision, but parents of young athletes are wise to bear in mind an adage that was lost on a number of people involved in the Penn State tragedy: ‘Power corrupts. Absolute power corrupts absolutely.’”

Friday, August 24, 2012

HATEFUL MESSAGES ADD TO SORROW


HATEFUL MESSAGES ADD TO SORROW

Three children die - and some readers' depraved responses to the tragedy create an evil all their own

by ANDREW MALEKOFF* (originally published on March 3, 2008)

I made a disturbing discovery the Sunday afternoon of Feb. 24 when the murder of three innocent children, the youngest named Innocent, allegedly at the hands of their profoundly troubled mother, was first
reported on Newsday's Web site. Few details were available at the time.

The headline on the Web site read: "Sources: Mom Kills Three Kids in New Cassel." My stomach dropped. I couldn't recall a story quite like this since I moved to Long Island in the late 1970s.

When I scrolled to the end of the story, there was a place to click to "Read all 40 comments." This link, which appears in many online stories in Newsday and other newspapers, takes you to a "Forum," a place for the public to comment.

I clicked into the forum, and amid readers' expressions of shock, dismay, sadness and sympathy, I found a significant stream of depravity. The forum, for the most part, consists of anonymous writers who tag their reflections with a range of nicknames. Here is a sample, exactly as the notes appeared:

Typical wrote: "The savages at it again ... "

The Pusher wrote: "New Cassel should be nuked."

Shoot Me Twice wrote: "The kids didn't put on a convincing performance at the Department of Social Services for mommy to get more free goodies. Maybe Tom Suozzi can use them as extra help at his mansion on the North Shore."

Senseless wrote: "Where O Where could my Daddy be? In jail most probably . . . planning to get out and commit the next robbery."

Booker wrote: ". . . These are unstable people with weak genes, she did society a favor. Animals kill their young when they know they are too weak to make a go of it, why are we so different?"

Comments like these continued throughout the week. On Feb. 27 someone identifying himself as Bruce wrote of the murdered children: "three less drains on society. good riddance."

Sprinkled in were a number of counter-responses like this one by Disgusted, I am sickened by this sad story and sickened again by all of these disgusting comments ... it's really pathetic that some of you have nothing to do but spew hatred."

Sometimes one response would specifically engage another. Right after the children's funerals, I found: Tookie (Huntington Station): "da lil nappi headed **** are in heaven now!"

To which SadSadness AOL responded: ". . . heartless cold person, 3 innocent children were killed regardless of race. If your not feeling sad over this your an evil person. those children did nothing wrong and def did not deserve that, May they Rest in peace respectfully."

It's one of the great benefits of the Internet to offer instant access to news, along with a chance for the audience to instantly share comments about it. But in this situation, even with certain incendiary remarks slapped right down, this seemed like a mixed blessing.

Newsday, like many media sites, has guidelines to try to keep the online conversation civil and constructive. Yet, after reading messages on the murder of three small children, I am discovering feelings of sorrow that I did not think I would ever experience for the mother who is alleged to have carried out the horror of all horrors, killing her own. Strangely, and I am sure unforgivably to some, I find myself feeling more of a human connection to Leatrice Brewer than to Typical, The Pusher, Booker, Shoot Me Twice, Senseless and their gang.

*Andrew Malekoff is executive director of the North Shore Child & Family Guidance Center in Roslyn Heights.

Newsday link to article: http://www.newsday.com/opinion/hateful-messages-add-to-sorrow-1.597624

Sunday, August 5, 2012

SAVE OUR SERVICES

SAVE OUR SERVICES
The Olympic games in London have inspired us with the fetes of 15-year-old swimming sensation Katie Ledecky and the diminutive dynamo of gymnastics, 17-year-old Gaby Douglas. At the same time, in Nassau County, there is a game of political cat-and-mouse being played by our elected officials who have put tens of thousands of vulnerable young people in the legislative crosshairs.

The July 6th funding cuts to essential human services provide a chilling insight into the insidious nature of Nassau County politics. The Democratic minority on the Nassau County Legislature chose not to authorize $41 million in borrowing for tax refunds. Republicans claim that the democrats are withholding their votes as a ploy to get new election districts redrawn. Democrats state that the funding cut is a policy decision by Nassau County Executive Edward Mangano.

In an attempt to draw wider attention about the impact of the budget cuts, STRONG Youth, Inc., a gang-prevention program in Hempstead that lost all of its county funding, staged a symbolic funeral for youth services at the Hempstead Pentecostal Church on August 2nd. I attended the funeral and participated in the processional motorcade led by two hearses that traveled past the legislative building in Mineola and concluded in a press conference on the steps of the Supreme Court.

Some critics accused STRONG of being too extreme. Others called the symbolic funeral disrespectful of the dead. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The funeral, procession and press conference were impeccably organized in less than a week by STRONG social workers and volunteers, young and old, who galvanized a complex network of children, teenagers, parents (including parents of murdered children), crime victims, clergy, colleagues, community leaders and local businesses.

The only thing extreme about the “funeral” was in the exceptional orchestration and staging of an event aimed at exposing the gap between what we know and what we are told by government officials. The skills used to organize this event are the same ones that are used by professional social workers to develop and implement an exemplary gang prevention program that aims to engage young people to become successful students and active citizens in community affairs. Nassau County should not be eliminating programs like STRONG, they should be celebrating and promoting it as a best practice in gang prevention.

One of the speakers at the press conference was a young woman, Amory Sepúlveda, who testified, “When I was 19-years-old I was the innocent victim of a drive-by shooting that resulted in [my] never being able to walk again. I was hurt physically, emotionally and thought my life was over. With the help of county youth services I am now a college graduate in pursuit of a master’s degree [in social work]. I’ve shared my story, changing the lives of thousands of youth in Nassau County.”

The shame of Nassau County and its loss of humanity are evident in our elected representatives’ failure to value, respect, uplift, defend and safeguard all of the County's children when having the power to do so. Our elected officials have demonstrated, notwithstanding their ever-present availability for photo ops designed to depict a contrary impression, that they have little respect for our most vulnerable citizens.

When our elected representatives implement politically-motivated cost cutting they miss the human toll and they miss the fiscal consequences of their decisions. Our elected representatives miss that they are cutting cost-effective services that keep people out of jail, emergency rooms and costly psychiatric institutions.

During harsh economic times when all of our best efforts are needed to preserve families and save lives, the recent cuts to human services will not only destroy families but increase the long term burden to the taxpayer. And, it will bear an even greater cost in lives lost, kids plucked from their homes and families splintered and destroyed.

Andrew Malekoff, Long Beach

The author is executive director of North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center in Roslyn Heights.



Sunday, July 15, 2012

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

Andrew Malekoff

Submitted to Long Island Newsday on July 16, 2012

The recent spate of politically-motivated funding cuts to essential human services and the ritual recruitment of our neediest citizens as unpaid lobbyists offers a chilling insight into how far Nassau County leadership has fallen.

The Democratic minority on the Nassau County Legislature voted four times against authorizing $41 million in borrowing for tax refunds. Republicans claimed that the Democrats are using their voting leverage to get new election districts redrawn. Democrats asserted that the cuts represented a policy decision by Nassau County Executive Edward Mangano.

In 2009, then-County Executive Tom Suozzi, whose motto for human services was "No Wrong Door," cut funding from 43 agencies serving over 60,000 people. In so doing, he "enlisted" the county's most vulnerable citizens to become his unpaid lobbyists to advocate for red-light cameras, cigarette taxes and traffic violation reform.

Red-light camera legislation was approved in Albany and local agencies were given bi-partisan assurance of restored and sustainable funding. That “reserved” fund was taken off the table by County Executive Ed Mangano as a consequence of the county legislature’s failure to pass the bonding.

When our elected representatives implement politically-motivated cost cutting they demonstrate a loss of empathy. What’s worse, is that they lose all reason. They miss the human toll and they miss the fiscal consequences of their decisions. They are relegated to finger-pointing, tantruming two-year olds hell-bent on getting what they want at any cost.

Our elected representatives miss that they are cutting cost-effective services that keep people out of jail, emergency rooms and costly addictions and mental health institutions. They discount the lives that will be saved by preventing suicide and drug overdoses. They ignore the human and fiscal benefits that quality services bring in effectively addressing homelessness, hunger, runaways, gangs, unemployment, family crises, eating disorders, sexual abuse, teen pregnancy and much more.

Our elected officials have demonstrated, notwithstanding their ever-present availability for photo ops designed to depict a contrary impression, that they have little respect for our most vulnerable citizens. Too harsh an assessment? Let’s face it, behavior talks.

Our services are referred to as “discretionary,” connoting that they are dispensable; which, we have learned, they surely are. We are reminded of this on a regular basis when our funds are slashed and our people are taken hostage to lobby for bonding or red-light cameras and, I am sure, in time, for gambling.

Moody’s Investors Service offers an opinion about the county’s general creditworthiness, or expected loss. I wonder how Nassau County would stack up if there was Moody’s Vulnerable Citizens Service that judged how we treat our most at-risk teenagers or seniors.

During harsh economic times when all of our best efforts are needed to preserve families, the recent cuts to human services will increase the long term burden to the taxpayer. And, it will bear an even greater cost in lives lost, kids plucked from their homes and families splintered and destroyed.

It is time for the people who we elected to represent us to get real.

Andrew Malekoff

Mr. Malekoff is executive director and chief executive for North Shore Child and Family Guidance Center in Roslyn Heights, New York